SAHM vs Working Mom - It’s not a CompetitionSep 12, 2017
It seems the mommy wars never end. What to feed your kids, how to school them, and the biggie - whether or not to stay home with them. But there are benefits to both being a stay at home mom (SAHM) and to being a working mother.
Some mothers espouse the benefits of staying home with their children. They offer up the following benefits.
Bonding - You can give your children a sense of security and strong bond with one caretaker versus multiple ones at a daycare. This sense of security gives them long-lasting confidence, which lets them gain independence and a strong sense of self.
Memories - Being there for their first word, or the first time they walk, is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, If that happens when they're in someone else's care, you miss it. Also, creating lots of memories from ordinary activities like making lunch with them, taking them to the park, children's song time at the library, and other activities is possible when you're your child all day instead of just in the evening and on weekends.
Investment - You can give your child the time he or she deserves, which allows them (and you) to blossom as a person. You can teach them things you think are important, and you don't have to wait for the weekend to do it. They're young for such a short time, why miss it or waste it by not being there? Your child will thank you later.
Yes, there are clear benefits to staying at home with your children, but studies also show the benefits of mothers who work outside the home, so don't quit that job just yet!
Work ethic - Children of working moms are more likely to be employed in supervisory positions later on, in addition to making more money that children whose mothers stayed home full-time. Cha-ching!
Flexiblity - Children whose mothers work outside the home experience schedule changes and shifting priorities regularly. This leads to kids who are more apt to roll with the punches throughout their lives - a great characteristic to have.
Responsibility - When they don't have mom cleaning up after them every minute, kids learn how to take care of themselves and their belongings better, and at an earlier age. Cooking, taking care of pets, and cleaning up after themselves becomes automatic (their future spouses will thank you).
Whether you decide to stay at home or climb the corporate ladder while your children are young, don't let guilt, studies, or your mother make you feel bad about your decision. Only you can do what's best for your family.